“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.”—Osho
Distinguish melancholy from sadness.
Go out for a walk.
It doesn’t have to be a romantic walk in the park,
spring at its most spectacular moment,
flowers and smells and
outstanding poetical imagery
smoothly transferring you into another world.
It doesn’t have to be a walk
during which you’ll have multiple life epiphanies
discover meanings no other brain
ever managed to encounter.
Do not be afraid of spending quality time by yourself.
Find meaning or
don’t find meaning
but “steal” some time
and give it freely and exclusively to your own self.
Opt for privacy and solitude.
That doesn’t make you antisocial or
cause you to reject the rest of the world.
“I sit before flowers hoping they will train me in the art of opening up. I stand on mountain tops believing that avalanches will teach me to let go. I know nothing, but I am here to learn.”—Shane Koyczan